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cheriu
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Posted:05/07/2008 8:59 AM |
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Pastor Brent,
You talked two Sundays ago about a girl who is having a hard time forgiving her father for what he did to her. I just wanted to share a little that might help her. I had a similar experience in my life, my father and my mother both molested me for many, many years. How I turned out as good as I did is only by the grace of God. There are so many steps of emotions you go through once discovering or dealing with the incest; disbelief, disgust, anger, shame, guilt, sadness and the last...forgiveness (the hardest of them all).
Forgiving the perpetrator does not say that what he or she did was okay at all. I think that's where she might be losing sight. It just says: "I will no longer live my life as a victim, I am a survivor. I will no longer give my perpetrator power over how I feel or how I conduct my life. I will NOT grant you the power anymore. I am releasing all negative emotions attached to these acts performed on me and I am giving them to my real father, my Father in heaven. I now will forgive for my sake. I will now forgive because that's what my Father instructs me to do and I will not question his demands. I am now free!!!!!"
God gave us all free will. Unfortunately, our parents chose wrong. We had absolutely NO control over it. As we were being molested, Jesus was there with us, He was crying tears of blood. For He had given us free will.
What happened to me and what happened to "Jenny" has made us very strong survivors. But, it does not define who we are. We are God's children, we are pure, we are clean and we are free. I hope this helps a little. Forgiveness is the last step. Please tell her not to discuss forgiveness with a "secular" counselor, for they just do not understand.
Blessings. I pray for "Jenny" and her healing process. What a strong lady she is!!!!
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