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sweetlybroken
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Posted:08/18/2006 9:02 AM |
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My husband and I are new to BRCC. We have been attending about a month. I am requesting prayers for the situation I have at work and I apologize for the length of this post but I hope that it will be clear what I need. I have worked at this body shop as shop manager for 11 mos. It was about one month into the job I realized that this may not be the right place for me. I have not lived an "innocent" life up until about 3 years ago when we found AA and my husband and I began our journey of recovery and developing a relationship with God. But...the language used all day every day at this shop is worst than I have ever experienced. My boss discusses sex even if I am present. There are pornographic magazines within view of others and pornographic calendar hanging in the shop. There is alcohol every evening and my boss and another employee come to work with hangovers often or don't show up at all. My boss also does not repair vehicles according to the estimates written and paid. Manufactured parts are replaced with Aftermarket and sometimes parts are repaired instead of replaced. I have discussed all of these issues with my boss in the past and his response is that it is his shop and that's just the way he is. I prayed in the beginning and thought maybe God wanted me here to help others. I provide the only income to our home (my husband and I) because he is no longer able to do his job due to heath problems. He is now trying to start his own business but it is slow. I get sick to my stomach on my 64 mile drive to work each morning and feel so discouraged and frustrated on my way home. I have asked God to show me what I should do and for acceptance while I am here. Would it be "stepping out of the boat in faith" if I take another job with a drastic cut in pay that will not pay my bills or would it just be stupid? With AA and God's help I have become a perosn that adapts to situations that are out of my control but this one has me feeling desperate. Thank you for your prayers and any advice you may want to share with me.
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cheriu
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Posted:08/24/2006 8:42 AM |
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I am so sorry that you are going through that. I have worked in those kinds of environments before and found it so difficult that I just had to leave. Of course, I looked for another job before leaving though. Maybe you can start searching at night while you're home. In the meantime, what I did at my last job was just say things like, "please don't talk that way in front of me, it bothers me," but say it kind of like in a sweet kind of way - not in a demanding way. I did that at the job I had and everyone would say a bad word and jokingly say, "oops, sorry Cheri" and I'd say jokingly, "that's okay, just don't do it again" with a smile. Anyway, I think they got the hint and they pretty much left me alone and didn't say bad words in front of me. Or you can just walk away when they start saying things that make you uncomfortable - they'll probably get the hint eventually. I hope that helps.
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cstockton
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Posted:08/24/2006 10:53 AM |
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I agree with Cheri. Find another job. There are too many other opportunities in this city and probably much closer to your home. As I prayed I saw your step of faith as having the confidence to interview for jobs that seem outside your skill set. Unless you have a criminal conviction there are very few business that can legally disqualify you. There are many jobs available with good pay and safe environments. Expand the scope of what you think you are qualified to do.
No matter where you work you should expect a safe enviroment. The issues you described at your current job are federal offenses. What you are experiencing is harrassment even if it is not directed at you specifically. I would find another job and leave them to their own demise.
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sweetlybroken
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Posted:08/25/2006 10:20 AM |
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Cheriu & Cstockton,
Thank you so much for your prayers and words of wisdom. You are so right and I am making some decisions with the help of a lot of prayer and listening to what God is telling me and showing me. Thank you again and thanks to everyone else who has been including me and my husband in their prayers.
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