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dha86
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Posted:03/22/2008 8:47 PM |
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I am a divorced, single father of two kids. I have been putting our life back together since my wife left us over two years ago. I have attended divorce recovery, I pray, I attend services. I am doing my best to get my life back on track. I have been dating off and on. Met a nice lady about five months ago and we "broke up" two weeks ago. It is amiable, not ugly. But, I am having the hardest time working through this. It is like being a teen ager. I pray every day to allow God to heal my heart of the wounds I suffered in my marriage, but to also take some forward "steps" in my life. I know I have to be patient and wait on the Lord. I know his grace is enough, but tonight, the night before Easter, I just can't seem to take comfort in it, any of it. I am blessed in so many ways, my kids are healthy, I have a good job, and yet this has just weighed me down in so many ways. I don't even know what to pray for anymore. If anyone out there in BRCC land can offer me some advice and a short prayer, it would go a long way. Thank you!
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| pancake (guest) |
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Posted:03/25/2008 10:35 AM |
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I'm sorry for your situation. I know that personally, when I have experienced a loss or unsettling situation, I feel that as someone knowing Christ I shouldn't be feeling sad or experiencing grief. I think that grief is something we need to allow ourselves - we're only human. Even Jesus wept when Lazarus died - I think that was because he (at the time) was human. I'm sure that a holiday in no way helped -it's a time of joy and reunion. Don't force yourself to be over something too quickly - some people stay in an emotional state more than others. I think you are very wise to handle this with prayer and wisdom. Even though you're not feeling "healed", Christ is by your side, hearing your heart and very soon you will feel that peace and contentment that you long for. When I say "I'll pray for you", it's not a off-the-top-of-my-head remark....I mean it! So......I will be praying for you!! For some comfort, read Psalm 56:8 - it's a great one to know. I will be looking for a "praise" in the messages 
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Posted:03/25/2008 3:28 PM |
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Dear good dad- you are faced with a hard task of moving on while keeping your head & spirits up and raising kids in a Godly way. I know you will be rewarded for your faithfulness b/c that is the kind of God we serve. Lately in my reading of The Word- I have studied the book of James for some reason I have been drawn to it. I encourage you to read it- it's not too long...and very easy to understand-common sense stuff you can apply to your prayer life and natural life.
I am praying for your healing heart- God is the Healer of ALL hearts if we allow Him to rearrange and organize it all for us. Is there something left "open", not fully closed or explained by your ex-wife or even this new ex-girlfriend??? You may explore that thought. Do you have questions still about anything for yourself, either of them or someone else? Even the smallest questions can start to weigh heavy on us when we are healing and not at our strongest. The enemy will prey on those seemingly small things he knows will keep you in a state less than the Love, Joy & Peace God wants us to live in...and he wins by causing you lonliness, confusion, despair, saddness...sometimes we feel that b/c God made us to have emotions, but remember the all important thing about emotions- we aren't to let them RULE us, we are to take EVERY thought captive and either act on it, store it for later use, or throw it right back at the devil where it came from. Don't allow the enemy to enter your heart and mind- take back what he has stolen from you- that is all he is here to do- steal, kill and destroy! It sounds like he is chipping away in the tiniest of ways at you- making you feel grief you don't understand or know why you are having ...we are made to grive and there is a season for that in all our lives- some of us have more than we would like at times...but don't let it rule your joy- you have the choice to live in it or live in the glory God gives you- all those wonderful blessings you mentioned you have-healthy kids, job, church, family...even if you had none of that you are blessed beyond belief b/c you are God's child, fully forgiven and promised a blessed future in Him.
Explore why you are feeling down- examine it, find the root of it, and then pray on it, work on it if you are prompted to- it may be nothing for you to do except have faith that God is going to provide for you- even in grief...he may be growing you up in a fruit of the spirit, examine that and make sure you aren't missing an opportunity to grow up for God in some way spiritually- maybe you are in line for promotion in your spirit life!
I am praying for your clarity, strength, example and wisdom as a dad, partner and Christ follower...you are in His hands and He is in control- have faith He can do anything for you and read James!
Choose to Live in His Joy!
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| lt (guest) |
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Posted:03/27/2008 11:43 PM |
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I will be praying for you. Remember its not in our strength but in the Lords where we find comfort, a hiding place. He is faithful and His promises are true. Sometimes it feels,like were doing and doing all the right things but not really seeing or feeling a break through. Have faith, its around the corner. All you can do is surrender it to the Lord. I know what your thinking "but I have". We've all said it. I agree with the posting earlier about reading James. James 1:1-4, Matt 6:33. Allow yourself time for healing. Its hard to serve others when you have struggles but in doing so the Lord can use that to heal you. Seek His kingdom first. Don't focus inward focus outward. We only share with you from our own hurts, learning, lessons and the God that loves us so much, He sent is one and only.
I heard a Pstr one day and he said in the middle of a storm, hang on to your worship, fellowship, discipleship. You don't have to know fancy words to pray God in His mercy and grace meets us where we are at.
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