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melo1436
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Posted:12/22/2007 10:52 PM |
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 well it all started about a year ago. i noticed my husband different. he began talking to one of his co workers alot. there were late calls incoming and out going. i asked him about it and he said they were just friends. so i tried harder for my husband but i still felt like there was something he wasn't telling me. he had asked me for a divorce because he wasn't happy and he didn't feel that i loved him. i asked him to give us another chance, seek counseling and go to church but the more i asked the harder he fought against it. we ended up seperating in feb of 2007. we both got apartments close to eachother so that it would be easier to help with both our boys. it wasn't until march that he finaly admitted that he had had an affair with this so called friend. he had wanted us to try one more time and i said yes because i came from a broken home and i didn't want that for my boys.
he moved back in with us shortly after that and then in june we had found out that we were expecting our third child. i was scared and still am because i am due in feb 27 of 2008. we saw this as a sign from god that we needed to stay together.
well lately i have been having those feelings that he is still doing the same thing because he still works with the woman he had an affair with. i've begged him to leave because if we were really gonna start over i wanted her and his work in the past.
well to make a long story short in the last three months i found a taperecording of them talking about all the things they did during the affair and how they missed each other. my heart broke that day!!
i found pictures of her oh his cell phone. i checked our phone bill and they have been talking everyday for the past 2 months. i asked him about it and he said he just needed a friend to talk to.
i don't know what to do!!!! i have prayed and asked god to give me the strength to get through this hard time and let his will be done. how much more do i take? am i stupid to stick around? i am 7 months pregnant and i don't want to be left alone with 3 kids but then i don't want him to think all this is ok. please give me some advice as to what to do. he blames me for him having the affair in the first place, that i didn't love him enough, or i am not interested in the same things he likes. god please guide me and use me to your will!!!! someone please give me some spiritual help .
thank you and god bless
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Posted:12/26/2007 9:45 AM |
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I am very sorry, and pray for you and your children and unborn son. I too have been a victom of a cheating spouse and feel your pain. It has been 2 years now and still have a diffcult time but I turn to Prayer to comfort my heart. Just keep in GODS word and Prayer to comfort you and your children. I will also Pray for you and children. May God Bless you and your family.
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| dewtaw (guest) |
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Posted:12/26/2007 7:26 PM |
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I will be praying for you, I know what you are going thru, as my 1st husband cheated on me with someone he worked with and finally left me for her. God will be your strength and He will get you thru this. No matter what happens DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF, your husband is trying to justify what he is doing. Remember this too shall pass, just keep your focus on God and seeking His will.
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| melo1436 (guest) |
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Posted:12/28/2007 10:28 PM |
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thank you very much for your reply. it means alot to me to know that you are out there praying for me. take care and god bless you and your family. have a great new years!!
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Posted:01/07/2008 12:11 PM |
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Hello Melo?,
I read your post yesterday and have been thinking about ya'll since then. Although I have never been in the exact situation that you are in I have been a single mother of 3. My children were 2yrs, 1yr, and I was 7 mos pregnant when my children's father died tragically in a car accident on his way home from work. At the time I had absolutely no idea how I could possibly raise them without a father. I come from a broken home but when I did see my father, I was a total daddy's girl and I could not stop feeling sorry for my children that they would never have that special father's love. I felt I alone was not enough for them. Having not grown up in a godly household I felt very scared that I wouldn't be able to give them a good life as a single mother. I started watching Joyce Meyer on a program called Enjoying Everyday Life, and she's helped me in so many aspects of my life. She's been through lots of trials including sexual abuse by her own father, and her husband leaving her during pregnancy for a womam who lived down the street from them! I have been in a relationship for almost three years now and I can tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I just want you to know that you deserve someone that loves you and wants to take care of you, not hurt you. I know now that with the lord children can have a wonderful life, earthly father or not, They can experience great love through Christ. With help from Him through Joyce Meyer and BRCC's message I feel like a brand new person with great hope for mine and my childrens future, and I know you can too. You should check out her show its on Time Warner channel 22, at 5:30 and 7:30am, or go to the website www.joycemeyer.org to find more listings. Hope this helped even a little, keep praying and pressing in to the Lord. God Bless You and your children
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Posted:04/13/2008 9:46 PM |
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Hi Melo,
I just read your post and I can honestly tell you it brought me to tears - having gone through something similar back in 2000, I too have 3 boys came from a broken home etc, etc.
I was just wondering how things are going for you and to let you know that God has restored my marriage and made it even stronger that prior to my husband's affair.
I will be praying for you and your family for strength and protection.
God bless,
Liz
p.s. if you ever need to chat email lizzyrod_2000@yahoo.com
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dwallis
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Posted:06/18/2008 2:27 PM |
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My heart goes out to you. My husband also had an affair. He searched the internet & found his "soul mate". I was absolutely devistated. Although I was raised in a Christian home I had strayed away from the Lord but when I left my husband due to the circumstances I turned to God & began going to BRCC. From that point on I have had miracle after miracle happen to me because I just gave my anguish to God. I felt the pain was absolutely unbearable. That was almost 4 years ago, now I'm a single mom but that's ok, we've struggled but I take it a day @ a time & give it the Lord. It is still difficult for me @ times, we were together for 12 1/2 years but I know that God has a better plan for my kids & I. I promise you a blessing will come from all of this, just trust the Lord, it's all in his timing. I will pray for you.
You're sister in Christ,
Donna
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rshafer
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Posted:06/23/2008 9:03 AM |
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I am going through the same thing, except my husband was married to 2 of us at one time. 42 years and it is dowm the drain. I am very broken and at 60 yrs am at a lose. Where do I go GOD. I pray so hard.
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phillips_susan
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Posted:06/27/2008 11:04 AM |
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I feel for all of you as I also was a victim of a cheating spouse. I know the pain can be very bad and the feeling of having been deceived is so painful. the only place you can turn is to God. he does hear your cries though and eventually you will be able to see that he was not walking beside you but was carrying you. Then you will have a peace that is so good
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