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angel15j
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Posted:03/20/2007 2:15 AM |
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My stepdaughter desperately needs prayer.
After the first court date, the judge allowed for the bruises and turned the other way with her mother's violent behaviors and told her mother to take her medicine and let Grandma do the monitoring. Nothing changed and the court order was ignored.
The second judge turned away from the letter by CPS that said her mother is abusive/neglectful and decided to give Grandma more time with my stepdaughter-not surprisingly, they ignore this too and my stepdaughter goes back to the mother so she can have more alone time.
They were made to promise in the name of God and in front of the judge to follow these court orders, and for the last four years nothing has improved. We are at a point where we are contemplating going back for a third time to see if my kiddo's "best interests" (ie. food, sleep, boundaries, safe housing) can be protected at last.
We have nearly saved up the money to afford the retainer, but my prayers are for my kid. Her heart is regularly torn in two, her other family is chaotic and filled with "domestic disturbances" or "disturbing the peace," and we are concerned with where to go next for her best interests.
We would greatly appreciate prayers for her heart, for her situation, and for her future. We also would appreciate any prayers or guidance in relation to the legal situation, we've tried twice before and gotten nowhere significant.
Thank you for your time, and I apologize about the length.
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| phillips365 (guest) |
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Posted:03/22/2007 10:37 PM |
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I do sincerely pray for Gods protection for your stepdgt. and I pray that the legal system would this time provide for the childs best intrest.I pray that God would heal her precious heart of all the sadness and pain
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nosselwop41
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Posted:03/27/2007 3:36 AM |
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Our prayers are with you, your step daughter, your family, and the JUDGE.
We pray God will grant the wisdom necessary for this "judge" to open their eyes about the "abuse" and do the RIGHT thing concerning it. Putting a child back into the path of danger is never a good thing.
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angel15j
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Posted:06/13/2007 8:31 PM |
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Thank you both for your prayers. We have saved up enough now to afford the retainer, and the lawyer has put everything into legal documentation. We now pray for a quick court date, the other party has started some mud-slinging and we hope to end this soon.
We're trying very hard to keep the focus on my daughter's needs, and the fact that the mud-slinging doesn't affect us as long as we stay focused on her; however, my little girl doesn't have that insight, and she's having a very difficult time with all of this.
She leaves Monday to go back to visit them for two weeks, we are currently unable to prevent visitation until this is over (unless they do some thing more against the temporary restraining order that covers behaviors only) so I request again more prayer for my little girl as she faces these trials in her life.
I am so grateful.
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angel15j
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Posted:07/06/2007 6:59 PM |
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Our court date is Tuesday the 10th of July at 0900!
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| Phillips365 (guest) |
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Posted:07/16/2007 11:57 AM |
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How did your court dare go
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angel15j
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Posted:07/23/2007 10:36 PM |
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Our court date was overwhelming. I'm not sure if there is a clear "winner" or "loser" on my kiddo's behalf yet.
The judge made it so that they have less visitation this next time (2 weeks instead of 3) and they HAVE to have supervised visitation or the mother will be put into jail, they are ordered to help pay for our attorney's fees (we do not expect those to actually be paid, nor do we expect to see any child support nor arrears) and they are ordered to come back in 3 months to "see how things are going."
When she came back from the first 21 day visit she gained 5 pounds in three weeks, and acquired a yeast infection from wearing her bathing suit for "too many days in a row this time I guess."
She doesn't understand why her mother doesn't call her anymore, and she's frustrated because she knows her mother made bad choices and now my kid can't see her as often or when/where she wants to...
I'm not sure if there IS a winner in this case, but I'm praying that God will keep taking us in the right direction and hopefully we can at least get the visitation moved to the county my child lives in and at a third-party facility so that she doesn't come home physically disturbed or worse...
Please keep praying though, we're not through the woods yet.
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angel15j
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Posted:09/07/2007 3:28 PM |
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To those who read these and pray,
I thank you for what you have done so far, I believe that it has gotten us to where we are today.
My daughter recently went to visit her maternal grandmother for two under VERY specific court regulations set out by the August visit. Shortly before she returned she told me on the phone that the other family was breaking the court's latest orders and that they asked her to cover it up with "I won't tell if you won't" concepts.
My husband and I decided to confront the grandmother to ask why they would encourage her to be deceitful and blatantly drag her into the middle of this court scene and we were VERY surprised to record what we did.
The grandmother explained that it didn't matter what anyone said, she fully intended to have her daughter see my kiddo and if we put her in jail, well that's just too bad because she's going to do what she thinks is right regardless of the court orders...
As a result, both Grandmother and Bio-mother are in direct contempt of court, and we are going back in October to find out the results of their choices.
I ask for continual prayer for my daughter, she's having a really hard time in school and at home dealing with this. Her behavior is moving into the highly unacceptable areas and her social worker that she visits doesn't seem to be helping very much.
Please pray that the windows and doors will be exactly what we need and when we need them and that they will have neon lighting so we don't miss them.
Thank you for your prayers, they give us strength and hope where we are weakest.
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| Ernest.chavarria#citi.com (guest) |
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Posted:09/18/2007 3:54 PM |
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I am a single father of an 8 yr old. I too fought for custody for many years. Even when my son was taken to CPS beaten black and blue, the system said as long as the mother went to counseling she would retain our son. She was and still is involved with an abusive man, drug user whom continuues to threaten her life, my sons life and mine. I hired an attorney and fought along with my Heavenly Father. I look back and at the times i felt He wasnt there, He relly was.....protecting our son. Have faith in HIM.. He is the power and strength. Jesus will deliver at the right time. My prayers are with you and your child
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angel15j
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Posted:09/24/2007 8:52 PM |
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Thank you for your response!
Sometimes we have a hard time understanding the REALLY big picture for her life, we've been to court THREE times now, and last weekend they just kept up with the same old stuff.
We tried to get a police report added to everything, but when we prayed for obvious guidance (I need neon signs to know which window or door to go through) God allowed things to happen in a different direction than what we had hoped.
We are supposed to go back to court next month, and I'm really praying that God's hand would be with the attorney and the judge and that my daughter wouldn't have to Joseph her way through the next several years of her life...
My impatience wants this to be over with now so that she can have a more consistent life and while I understand that it's going to be under God's time, I'm hoping that her seven years so far is nearing an end to this constant emotional strain.
Thank you for your prayers, please keep them coming.
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angel15j
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Posted:10/16/2007 8:42 AM |
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For those who read and pray,
Our next court date is November 27th of this year. Please pray for the judge, the lawyers and all parties involved for God's Will to be done in those lives. In faith, we are praying that what's best for my daughter will be done at this next appearance.
We have paperwork that may put her biologic mother in jail for 6 months for failing to follow the court order; however this may not happen for a good amount of time, and the next visit is this weekend. In a phone call yesterday with her bio-mother we learned that they are still planning to break the court order, just on the day that they know we won't be there. My daughter being sensitive to the truth came to me and told me everything that was said.
I believe that she is stronger with your prayers and ours. She has been behaving better in school, and she has been more vocal with her feelings (in past years she would bottle it up and misbehave outrageously). I praise God for His work in her life, and I thank all of you for continuing to pray for her.
I have tried to keep the names and related information out of these posts because I recently discovered that our prayers are not kept within this group so I can't tell you her name; however, please continue to pray for this child so that she will be in the best situation with the right visitation as God would see fit.
Thank you all so much for lifting your prayers over her.
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angel15j
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Posted:11/02/2007 7:23 AM |
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Back to hard prayer...with Hutzpah!!!
We have paperwork that we're prepared to serve her biologic mother with because she broke the August court order with the grandmother's assistance. She seems to be aware of her consequences because she won't answer the door to be served. We are also filing for an emergency hearing because the next major court date is coming on 27 November and that happens right after she is (in theory) supposed to spend the week with her other family.
They have a history of indirectly (and occasionally direct) stressing my daughter out to the point she doubts who is telling the truth. We have made a conscientious habit to never lie to her (although for her peace of mind we don't always divulge ALL details) and we feel that she will be greatly stressed with the possibility of her other family losing a lot of visitation and her mother going to jail for six months.
(Her mother has two other children, a toddler and an infant)
Please pray for an effective hearing on the 13th of November, and God's Will be done with these hearings and the visitation situation.
Thank you so much.
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kudabear
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Posted:11/13/2007 10:16 AM |
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Praying for you on your day in court. Blessings to you and to your stepdtr. God be with you all today and show His will to the judge.
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angel15j
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Posted:11/13/2007 7:19 PM |
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PRAISE GOD!!!
We were able to prevent the Thanksgiving visits while we wait for the next court date!!!
The judge we got was VERY fair minded, he listened to both sides of what we had to say and then ruled in our favor. There were no extraneous requests made, and firmly believe we saw God's Hands at work!
For the first time in five years of court cases her Grandmother chose to tell the truth in court!
I am so ecstatic to be able to write this to you all, and I'm continuing my prayers with hutzpah that we will be able to have more good news after the next court date on 27 November at 0900!
Thank you from the biggest part of our hearts,
Thank you!
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| Phillipss365 (guest) |
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Posted:11/14/2007 12:35 PM |
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i will continue to pray for you
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angel15j
Posts:27
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Posted:11/24/2007 6:20 PM |
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We are preparing for Tuesday...all help is appreciated.
Thank you...
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angel15j
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Posted:11/27/2007 3:49 PM |
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Just wanted to let everyone know the results of today's visit to the San Antonio Court house.
WE WON!!!!!
 On to the details, my daughter will have guaranteed supervised visits with her maternal family (mom and grandma both plus whomever they choose to show up) for the next year for the second Saturday of each month per their payment. If they continue with their one day per month for six consecutive months, then they will earn the second day of the weekend for the next six consecutive months.
For purposes of stability we added in a clause about not being able to go back to court (unless this order is violated) for one year. Hopefully this will allow everything to settle out for a while and we can reevaluate what's best for her as she grows.
Her mother is paying child support now, and we're hoping this continues so that we can put that towards a college account.
We also put a clause in there about the supervised visitation being in the county of the child's residence in the event that the military moves us. This will ensure that even if we move to the coasts that we won't have to drive/fly to San Antonio to produce her "per the court order."
Then at the end there's mumbo jumbo that makes sure that if for some reason they continue to put her needs last, we can go back at any time and bring up anything that we have dealt with to this point. If they choose to follow things to the letter this time, then we will toss out specific things so that we can better meet her needs.
She understands the basics of what occurred today and she's very relieved that she doesn't bear any weight of telling the truth in spite of encouragement otherwise. She calls the place the "rule-checkers" and is eager to get to play with her "Other Family" all day.
We wanted to let you know that we have truly appreciated all of the hard prayers that have been lifted up for my daughter, and that we are grateful to have friends and family such as you.
PRAISE GOD!!!!
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Kelly4Christ
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Posted:11/28/2007 10:41 PM |
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Praise God!!!  You all have been in my prayers every night and I am SO glad to hear that things went right this time. I will continue to pray that everything continues to go as it should and all the rules are followed.
May God continue to bless you and your precious daughter.
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