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ribarra
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Posted:08/26/2006 11:50 PM |
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Six years ago my daughter and I both experienced the devasting affect of divorce. Our lives were changed from that day on. It was during that time when we became members of BRCC. The Lord used BRCC to minister to us during the most difficult time of our life. The Lord didn't immediately deliver us from our fear, anger, bitterness, and pain. Instead He walked us through those emotions so that we could be built up in Him. We embrace the mission of BRCC to become fully devoted followers of Christ. My daughter is now 10 and I am 36. We both feel ready to find that significant other. Her heart desires a step-father and I a husband. But not any man will do. I am not just any woman and my daughter is not just any child. We love the Lord above all things and desire to find a man who is also strong in the Lord. I am ready to find that right person but don't exactly know how to go about doing that. I don't feel that the community forum on this website is a safe environment based on some of the comments I've read. Pastor Dave mentioned during last week's service that he had some single male Christian friends. Is there any way to get connected to them?
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gfike
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Posted:09/11/2006 11:43 AM |
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Sorry for the delay in response. Pastor Dave has put you on the waiting list... I think you are no. 293, so hopefully he can get you hooked up by January next year.
;-)
Now for a real response...
Of course you realize that some of the comments Dave includes in his message are tongue and cheek. At the same time, some of our pastors have actually introduced people to their future spouses. But more often than not you will find the right man for you as you go about doing life God's way. God's way will probably not be MySpace or a singles bar, although some people have met their loves that way. It is much healthier to build godly relationships through godly networks, like serving in a ministry or "being-the-church" where you live and work. If you go about looking specifically for a husband and step-father, you run the risk of trying to make square pegs fit into that round hole.
One important thing you need to do before beginning a new relationship is to get complete healing from your broken relationship. We have an excellent way to find that in our DivorceCare ministry on Tuesday nights. We also have DC4K, that is, DivorceCare for Kids, that will help your daughter to heal from her broken relationships. That network of friendship with fellow singles will help you figure out how to find and follow God's will for your future.
Introduce yourself to us sometime. That would make it easier to fix you up!
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ribarra
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Posted:09/11/2006 10:30 PM |
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Thanks for the advice. You are right. Doing life God's way is the only way for me. Despite what my prior note may have sounded like...I don't go about my life looking for a step father and husband. I go about my life working a full time job, raising my beautiful daughter, and serving the Lord where I live and work. The Lord has used me to minister to many people (neighbors and coworkers). Only the Lord knows why He chose me for this ministry but the common element in all these people's lives are that they have been through so much trauma and heartache that they have given up on life and on God...they believe that suicide is the only way to escape the pain. Most of these people just want to know that someone cares. God uses me to share His love with them because I care.
I do enjoy various ministry opportunities. Maybe I can get connected with BRCC ministries sometime. I especially love going to mission trips.
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