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KBW
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Posted:06/19/2008 11:54 PM |
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My parents were married for 20 years, but divorced. A few years later he remarried a woman who was a widow. They married in a reception hall over 10 years ago. Within these 10 years, his new wife has tried to convince him to get his first marriage (with my mother) anulled (msp?) so that they can renew their vows in the catholic church. My sibling and I are completely against this due to various reasons. How can you deny a 20 year marriage? Doesn't that mean that you also deny your children? Is it fair for this woman to ask this of my father? Her husband passed away...if it had been a divorce, I doubt she would have done this. She too has two children from her previous marriage. I have spoken to them and they do not agree with their mother's view; nor would they have wanted her to deny her first marriage with their father.
I expressed my thoughts to my father and explained how horrible I would feel if he complyed with his wife's request. Through the years she has felt the need to continuously bring it up to my sibling, but not to me. (I think it's because she never voiced her opinion on the matter and I did.) His wife feels that she is living in sin because they did not marry in a church.
What should I do? What can I do? And should I intervene when she addresses my sibling with her views and constantly tries to get her to agree with her? I try not to judge her, but I love both my parents; and to deny that they were ever in love and created two children together...I feel this is WRONG! Am I wrong?
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gfike
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Posted:09/22/2008 7:25 AM |
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I believe your convictions are right. I am sorry that you live with this situation, but I hope your loving response to your step-mother will demonstrate to her that you were not a mistake; you can be an agent of God's grace in her life.
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