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katana532
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Posted:07/03/2007 5:23 PM |
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My husband and I own our business and my husband is talking with this girl. Of course I just find out about it, but has been going on since before x-mas. I confronted him about it and he says he has to do business with her and refuses to stop talking with her. What gets me is they talk 2 sometimes 3 times a day. How do they know all this stuff about each other if it is business? He told me he cared about her as a friend. I went to her and asked her what her intentions were and she said she is gay and in a relationship for 12 years and is not ready to be with a man yet. What does a gay woman have to do with a married man? Why does he jump when ever she calls? I am a Christian and he is not. I pray every hour every day. I try to roll it off my back and give it to the lord, but how? What does the lord whant me to do? Do I really have any thing to worry about? What should I do? I can not take this any more. Can someone help? I am so depressed.
Thanks, Depressed, confused and worried
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Posted:07/04/2007 1:50 AM |
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You should call the church and ask to speak to an on-call pastor.
Listening to friends and strangers can "sometimes" make things worse. The bible says to talk to many counselors and sometimes our friends speak out of their flesh when it comes to these circumstances. Try to stay calm and "be strong in the Lord."
I will be praying for you. I have gone through a similar situation with my husband but when I asked him to stop talking to this woman, he did. He understood our relationship was at stake and decided on our marriage. Counseling with an experienced Christian counselor would be a very wise choice.
You are a child of God, wholly loved and dear to Him. He will help you through this. Whatever you do, do not stop praying and spending time with Him.
In Christ's love...
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gfike
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Posted:07/04/2007 9:11 AM |
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Your husband has formed an emotional soul tie with this woman. I would urge you not to find security in her statement that she is gay. Research from interviewing lesbian women reveals that a large percentage are not exclusively homosexual; again, deviant sexual orientation seems to suggest emotional dysfunction.
If your husband wants to heal your relationship, he needs to sever the soul tie, We have a group called "Integrity for Men" that meets each Tuesday evening at 7 pm to help men regain and maintain healthy sexual perspectives.
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| katana532 (guest) |
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Posted:07/05/2007 5:19 PM |
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I asked my husband to stop talking with her again. And he still refuses. I told him I can't live like this anymore. He told me that there was nothing going on and that if I could not trust him that he was going to leave and be with nobody. I still don't know what to believe. He does not think he is doing anything wrong.(by talking with this girl)It just does not stop. I guess I need to leave it alone and let the lord deal with it. My heart is still broken. I think about it all the time. I talked with a couple of pastors and I still am confused. Is there some group or something that I can attend once a week? Not only for something like this but something that will bust my confidence and spiritual needs to?
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Posted:07/08/2007 12:07 AM |
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You could come to the Tuesday night group, Metamorphosis. It begins at 7pm and we break up into different groups at about 7:30. There is a Women's Open Share group that allows you to share your frustrations and connect with other women. There is also a group for depression. I hope this helps. Keep praying and seeking God!
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Posted:07/20/2007 8:11 AM |
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I have stumbled on this conversation trying to find answers to my own situation. Your answer to the question if he has feelings for that woman was when he reacted by threating to leave your home.His response to give up made him gulity of having feelings for this women. She very well may be gay... that may be a turn on for him. Inviting your husband into her gay relationship may have come up. This world is in trouble and respect has left the buliding. Holyiness has been replaced by anything goes. If women would remain women, have some self respect I believe theses cheating men would pull up a chair and sit down at the table of life. When they said "I do" they were made responsilbe for us. I truely believe that God gave life to a women to help these men along, but we have dropped the ball. A woman has never been able to do what man can do. Its not in our character to sleep with a bunch of men and brag about it. Now days we on t.v. telling it all. I know that your husband loves you, believe that. You are fighting a losing battle with out God. Stay prayed up! Even if he leaves pray that he returns the man of God he was designed to be. You don't get with him and do the same thing there is no reward in wrong. You are a women first. God knows your heart and he is working on your situation. He may not come when you want him but he is always on time. Love you my sister in Christ
~In the same shape
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