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Author   Messages Sort: Oldest First Newest First afraid (guest) Posted:01/23/2007 1:19 PM I've been having terrible terrible thoughts, impure thoughts for about 2 years now it's almost gonna be 2 1/2 years that I've been struggling with these sins and I am just so tired of them! It gets me so scared/frustrated because these impure thoughts are ruling my mind and I'm afraid if I die and these thoughts are still going on in my head if i will go to Heaven. . .will I go to hell because of these thoughts? I ask God for forgiveness every time an impure thought comes into my head but sometimes I feel I'm not forgiven because I've sinned so many times with the same sin over and over and the thoughts seem to get worse and worse! These thoughts involve the Lord. I'm probably the only person in the world who has these thoughts and thats what makes me so afraid if God will forgive me. I'm so ashamed of these thoughts and just want them to go away. . .I pray to God every day to take them away and they don't so I get so depressed because I start thinking is God mad at me since he won't take this away from me? Some days are better than others where I'm so positive and know God will bring me through this and Jesus' blood forgives me and cleanses me of all my sins but there's other times like now where I feel alone and doomed. . .that these thoughts will never go away. These thoughts feel bigger than me. I've also told God I can't take it anymore to please deliver me form this and nothing happens! I love God and I don't want these thoughts to rule my life anymore. I find myself living in the past a lot and thinking how I was happier and more on fire for God before these thoughts and I want those days to be here now! Please Help! I don't know what to do anymore to try to get rid of them I seek God but I seem to get no answers. When the thoughts come into my mind what should I do? should I ignore them and try to think of something else or just keep asking for forgiveness everytime I have the thoughts? I'm sorry this is so long and probably doesn't make since but if you have any words of encouragement it will help. gfike Posts:230 Posted:01/23/2007 2:41 PM May God bless you and set your free! As His child, He doesn't want to see you suffer. He allows us to struggle sometimes because in overcoming we receive strength to serve him and minister to others. You are right to seek help, because these obsessive thoughts represent a stronghold where Satan locks you up to kill your effectiveness. We have a group of men who meet each Tuesday night at 7 called "Integrity for Men." This is a very structured program that will help you build up defenses against this demonic assault. The leaders and fellow members will be a strong support system for you. Never forget: God knows how you are made; He knows you are weak. He wants to be your strength. Your fellow believers are here to stand with you in your struggle. Those who have experienced it with you are especially equipped to help you overcome it. Never forget: there is nothing stronger than the love that God has for you! Me (guest) Posted:01/24/2007 11:56 AM First of all I just want to say that I am sorry that you are having to deal with this. Obsessive thoughts are like having a scratch on a disc. The same message skips over and over and prevents us from moving forward. They steal your joy and your life. I know what you are going through because I have had to deal with it myself. First things first, are you saved? Have you asked Jesus into your life? If so, claim it. You are a child of God. He is your protector, your strength, and most of all your refuge. You said these thoughts feel bigger than you. What you need to remember is that NOTHING is bigger than God. It is not our strength but His that carries us through the hard times. The next time your mind starts to wander stop and say, "Praise you Jesus. Your strength lives within me, Your peace lives within. I am a child of God and in him alone will I rest. God alone governs my mind, protects my thoughts, brings peace to my body, and gives rest to my spirit." If you have to, repeat it over and over. Satan with try to rob you of your peace. If you need to talk, call someone. Distract your mind. Believe me, it will pass. What you are thinking of may not even have the meaning you think it does. If you are having impure thoughts, (I'm not saying this is fact, just another point of view.) it may be that you are associating sex with a deeper more meaningful realationship. If you view sex as the meaning to a relationship, you might need to start looking at what the real meaning to a relationship is. Don't let Satan pervert your desire to have an intimate, meaningful, relationship with your Lord. You are important to God. He loves you, and he wants you have a happy, loving, and meaningful life. One that is full of PEACE. You are not alone, God will never leave you, and you are His. Know it! Claim it! and REST in it! afraid (guest) Posted:01/25/2007 5:30 PM Thank You for y'all's replies they really gave me comfort. I am saved and i think thats one of my challenges going through this is Believing I am saved and God does forgive my sins because then why would he have died, he died for all sin and everybody's sin. I heard somewhere that Jesus would die for you even if you were the only one to sin because we're all that special to him, he wants every single one of us with Him. It's so easy for me to believe God will forgive me for gossiping or lying or something like that but I have trouble believing he could possibly forgive me for these terrible thoughts and I know thats something I have to work on but it's so hard when everything in your body is telling you "How could God possibly forgive you?", "You can't be forgiven!" but everyday its a challenge to ignore those thoughts. Sometimes theres this feeling in me to just ignore those negative thoughts and just say to myself "I am Forgiven!" and just trust what The Word says. When the thoughts come into my head I want to just ignore them, but will God forgive me of the sinful thought if I don't acknoledge it and just ignore it so I don't let the thought take root and get discouraged? guest (guest) Posted:01/27/2007 2:29 PM I recommend reading "Battlefield of the Mind" by Joyce Meyer. anotherguest (guest) Posted:04/23/2007 12:21 AM I understand what you have gone/are going through. You are engaged in a spiritual battle of the mind (your thoughts). I pray the reason there are no further posts is because you are winning this battle, but for all the rest of us I want to encourage you to persevere. In my personal battle, horrible thoughts of anger, revenge and violence were in control. I wondered if I was really a Christian. I would lash out at my family in words and even physically. This was a long battle for me, and God gave me many different strategies to outwit the enemy. The first one is to replace the devil's lies with God's truth--God has already won this battle for you. On the cross, Jesus won the whole war; defeating not only death but the flesh (our sin nature), the world, and the enemy. Many years ago (fall of 2003, I think) Pastor Brent preached on Romans and talked about "reckoning yourselves dead to sin." Truly believing God about this and depending on Him was a very significant first step in obtaining the victory I enjoy today. Once I took God at His word, the sinful thoughts began to decrease significantly. Maybe someone can dig those audio tapes out of the archive for you. (I don't have any copies.) Next, I can only echo "guest"'s idea to read Joyce Meyer's book, "Battlefield of the Mind." She will show you HOW to use Scripture to replace sinful thoughts, not just "stop thinking that way." Another book that explains WHY and HOW this works is "I Promise" by Dr. Gary Smalley--this is marketed as a marriage book but it reveals how our thoughts are generated and how (thru Christ) God has given us the power and the tools to change them (by bringing them under God's control). Then, after working in me & freeing me from the enemy's deceptions in this area, I (finally) followed the Spirit's leading to see a psychiatrist and then a counselor. (I always thot of psychiatrists as "shrinks"--borderline crackpots who make you lie down on the couch & blame everything on your parents. NOT.) Turns out shrinks are the brain chemical experts. Make sure you see a Christian psychi, obviously, but if you have a chemical or hormonal imbalance they are best able to prescribe meds if you need them. A good Christian counselor can work one on one with you for a while if you need it. If these thots have been tormenting you for over 2 1/2 years then I think it wouldn't hurt. The church office has a list of Christian counselors and therapists. If you get names from other places just make sure they are also LICENSED so they have the training and education to help you if you surface significant issues. Many "counselors" associated with some particular church are trained laymen, not degreed therapists, so just ask up front. Finally, get in a group of Christians to support you in prayer and discussion, as Pastor Fike suggested. We've all assumed you're a guy, if you are I hope you're already in the Tuesday night group. If not, I'm sure there's other groups for you. Don't give up. Stand strong in the Lord, and in the power of HIS might. This is way too long, but I just wanted to reply once I read your post--even though it was written months ago. My brother, may God grant you health and peace in our Lord Jesus Christ.
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