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johncanalesusa
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Posted:12/06/2006 1:26 AM |
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Recently I had the experience of confessing my sins to close friends. I though it would help them better relate to me and I to them. They listened. They understood. I felt condemned anyways. Maybe it was the shame of my sin, but the days that followed have been some of the saddest days I have lived. My friends put me on a level below them... it wasn't their intentions but non the less they did. It was their sarcastic remarks. It was their words... "I'd never do that." It was the void of words also. I wish they would of called to tell me it's okay, and "God can use you despite your failure." I wish someone would have said something about restoration... but instead all I heard was what I shouldn't be doing and how my actions are wrong. I cut my self that day in telling them what I did. It was a new wound. Not only did I have to deal with my sinful nature, but also I had to deal with problems of my friends. My heart was lost in the sea of anger, loneliness, and shame. I wanted to tell them everything but now I will not. I will in the future but as of right now these words have no place for their ears.
I believe I have perverted God's intentions for me by sinning. Ecclesiastes 7:29 puts it this way: "See, this alone I found, that God made human beings straightforward, but they have devised many schemes."
The bible instructs us to be perfect, without sin (1 John 3:2-6) and yet we cannot be without sin during this life (1 John 1:8-10). This conflict between perfection and perversion- being a sinner and a child of God- drives me crazy, brings me to my knees, compels me to shake me fist, lift myself high in praise and drops me low in desperation.
In Genesis 1:27, humankind was created in God's image. If god is ultimate beauty and humans are images of that beauty, nothing we do can remove the image in which we were created. He and his beauty are infinite. Even if only a small trace of God's beauty still exists in our hearts, we are still beautiful. This is how God's beauty works.
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Posted:12/07/2006 11:21 AM |
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Dude,
Confessing your sins is never a bad thing. If your friends teased you or made you feel horrible, it shows their lack of understanding as well as their immaturity as fellow believers. The Lord has enough grace to help you overcome your sins, and is patient enough with us to give us time to change. It sounds like you have a heart for God and want to do the right thing. Don't be so hard on yourself, and wait on the Lord. Sometimes He wants to teach us something through the pain we feel. You may find that you grow closer to God through this experience. After all, his friends all ditched Him when he needed them the most.
Rely soley on god during this time. He rewards those who confess their sins and repent, and he will help to change you; just be patient and wait for Him.
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Posted:12/12/2006 8:22 AM |
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Listen Buddy,
I agree there is nothing wrong with confessing your sins. How are be suppouse to repent and move forward if we don't do that. It seems that maybe the people you choose to tell about your sins feel that they are better then you. Let me tell you something there is no one without sin, no one is perfect and you need to remember that.
Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins yours mine everyone's and we are human so there fore we will undoubtedlly sin daily with an action a thought or whatever it may be.
I am very proud of you for confessing. I too have confessed my sins and I felt horrible in the beginning but you have to believe GOD has forgiven you and he will help you through this time and you will feel better it just takes time. I know I to have been in that situation beofre.
May GOD BLESS YOU.
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Posted:12/12/2006 4:09 PM |
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Hey John, you picked the wrong people to confess to and you chose the wrong reason. If your confession was to people who are not open and honest with you then confessing before them is not going to open them up. They were too immmature and cannot handle the load. Based on your many other posts you seem have a small inner circle. Use them. If not find older more mature men. I can give you a long list of reliable and trust worthy men to confide in. Don't be angry at the babes.
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Posted:12/12/2006 10:29 PM |
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Hi John, I am so sorry your friends responded in that manner. I am not sorry for you but for them. It has been my experience that of each and everything I would never do, I have now done, God will teach us compassion. He will bring us into that situation and show us our weakness. He will humble your friends and give you the courage to forgive them. Susan
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Posted:12/15/2006 9:44 PM |
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Reading your post John, made me cry because I can so relate to how you feel. I have felt the same way you have felt. How you said the days were your saddest days . . .I have had those days where the guilt of my sin is unbearable and in these times you do feel lonely. Actually thats how I read your post. . . I was feeling so alone and the guilt of ALL my sins was just attacking me and I felt so terrible that I came here. I felt I had to tell you something becasue after reading your post I just cried out to God and spilled the beans to Him on how I was feeling. I admire your bravery in wanting to tell others your sins because I'm trying to get the courage to do the same myself. Don't pay any attention to what your friends had to say to you. . .you were just looking for comfort from friends and thought you could count on them, the way they hurt you is their problem, don't let their foolishness bring you down and make you feel you did something wrong, you humbled yourself to say I have sinned and God sees that and thats what he wants from his children, for us to humble ourselves. He's proud of you no doubt!  I encourage you to just look to God he'll get you through this . . .this is what I have to apply to myself too. Remember Jesus died for all of our sins and His blood takes away All of our sins and His forgiveness is free and everlasting and He loves us unconditionally. I know from experience its hard to believe this when the guilt of our sins are weighing heavy on us and the enemy is in full attack mode but in those times it is so important to remember the truth of Jesus and that His blood takes away sin forever when we confess our sins to Him we just have to have FAITH!  "If we confess our sins to the Lord He is faithful and just to forgive our sins"
God Bless!
"If God brings you to it, He will get you through it"
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